On ways of being

Deep rift in the core of an old tree. Looked painful.

Do you ever find yourself in distress, wondering what's best to do in a complex situation inside or with others?

On a sensitive spectrum of experience, distress can come from for-others-minor triggers, right? It's one of the reasons why I'm always on a lookout for insights and guidance about transforming pain. So when I came up the fine distinction I want to share with you today, something inside me sat up and listened. See what it does for you, starting with these summary quotes:

"As important as behavior is (...), most problems at home, at work, and in the world are not failures of strategy but failures of ways of being. (...)

Generally speaking, we respond to others' way of being toward us rather than to their behaviour.

(The Anatomy of Peace)

There's big hope and a not too small a challenge in this, the way I hear it.

How do you like it?