Because English is not my mother tongue, sometimes I see it with fresher than the natives' eyes and marvel. It happened again after I used the phrase "home truths" here the other day.
I'm buffled that you'd want to connect the words "home" and "truth/truths" with the concept of "an unpleasant fact about oneself, esp. as pointed out by another person".
And, in another way, it is not surprising: the culture at large still operates under the illusion that shaming leads to positive change.
Any parent or school that believes that, will promote the use of "home truths" to motivate.
Does shame motivate in your experience? I find it crippling, not creating improvement. If it motivates, it does so only in the short run when you strive to cover up "the evidence" including hiding it from yourself. That may look like improvement but it's just a buried mine in the long run. Who'd want those in their life on purpose???
There's growing awareness and research that "shaming" (like "shoulding") doesn't work. Now, that can be motivating: why would you burn energy doing something that is degrading and ineffective? A good point to support your learning to talk to yourself and those you love differently.
The short, fun clip below says the same thing, in this case to women wanting to motivate their man. Enjoy!
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